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Advantages of Collaborative Divorce – Confidentiality

April 25, 2019 By Larry Hance

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We’ve all seen the news of Jeff and MacKenzie Bezos settlement regarding their divorce.  Specifically, we learned what they wanted us to know (that Amazon, the Washington Post and Blue Origin will still be in Jeff’s control), but that most other details of their divorce would be kept confidential – which as much as we’d all like to know about the Bezos’, we would all want for ourselves.

But confidentiality isn’t something that’s afforded to everyone. If you divorce via litigation, in a courtroom, the testimony associated with the divorce is in the public record, and the public is generally allowed to just walk in the door and watch. And in Texas, even after it’s over, it requires the filing of a motion to seal the file to keep the information out of the public’s hands.

We have a history of openness in our legal system, and public trials and civil arguments are far and away the norm. I remember one divorce case I had involving a successful businessman, a key figure with a global company, who wanted his litigated divorce to be confidential – and I especially remember having to break it to him that this wasn’t a privilege he should count on. If a case involved a public figure, like, say, another judge, the court system allows for legal proceedings to take place in a judge’s chambers with just the court reporter present as a witness, but this is definitely not an option for just anyone.

The best way to keep your divorce confidential, of course, is to avoid taking it to the courthouse in the first place. Couples who are understandably wary of a “kitchen table” divorce, but want to work out an agreement without litigating, have the option of collaborative divorce. This process happens in offices rather than courtrooms, with financial details and other sensitive matters staying within the office for the duration of the proceedings.

For people looking to keep their divorces confidential, my first piece of advice is to find a lawyer who has background and training in collaborative law, and to talk through the options to see if this would work for them.

Deciding on collaborative divorce for yourself is one thing, of course – convincing your spouse to go along with that may be quite another. If your spouse desires confidentiality as much as you do, that might be enough of a selling point. If not – or if you’d rather not lead with your wishes to keep the divorce private and out of the courtroom, there are plenty of other reasons to steer away from litigation. Here are a few of them.

Collaborative divorce allows you to negotiate the settlement on your schedule rather than the court’s, and puts control more firmly in the divorcing couple’s hands. Collaborative divorce can and often will include a mental health professional to help with communication and with the emotional needs of the divorcing couple and their children. Couples looking for a more customized settlement to address their unique situations are more likely to get it by forging it themselves, with the help of an experienced team focused on getting them the best possible outcome. And when a lawyer agrees to participate in a collaborative divorce, he or she prepares to forge a solution rather than to fight for one – a perspective that can get you to a settlement more expediently.

If you find yourself preparing for litigation, be open with your lawyer about what you want to keep confidential and why you want to do so. Then, and only then, can your lawyer help you strategize about how to best guard the privacy of your divorce.

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Jenny B. Davis, ABA Journal

“Texas’ reputation for rough-and-tumble justice may be in for a revision... the state became the first in the nation to adopt a statute clearing the way for collaborative law, a process designed to soften the experience of getting a divorce.”  “Texas Shows Its Softer Side” by Jenny B. Davis,  ABA Journal

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