What if he’s crazy, or angry or not trustworthy? Is collaborative approach to divorce possible or advisable? In my practice I have heard certain accusations repeatedly for 24 years, clients telling me that their spouse is “crazy”, “a narcissist”, “controlling” , “hiding money” and/or “cheating”. When clients and lawyers are considering their process options to handle the divorce one of the … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce: What if My Spouse is Crazy?
Don’t Let Them See Your Dirty Laundry
What if there was a way to divorce where all your dirty laundry was not aired out publicly? What if there was a way to divorce where we could honor what we had, but move on to more fulfilling lives. What if there was a way to divorce that shielded the children? What if there was a way to divorce that allowed for a creative settlement that addressed both of our goals and concerns? What if there was … [Read more...] about Don’t Let Them See Your Dirty Laundry
Reasons that People Select the Collaborative Process (even when the cat is kidnapped)
Sherry came home from caring for her ailing mother in Delaware to find that 2/3 of the furniture had been removed from her house and the cat had been kidnapped. Surprise- Joe, her husband, wants a divorce. That is how she found out. This sounds like the beginning of War of the Roses, not the beginning of a collaborative divorce case, but it was. Why would Sherry select the collaborative … [Read more...] about Reasons that People Select the Collaborative Process (even when the cat is kidnapped)
The Collaborative Attorney’s Client Guide to Surviving the Holidays
1.) Create new traditions. One spouse is often more despondent about the breakup than the other. During the holidays, the impact of divorce for this spouse can feel a bit like a sledgehammer. He or she may lament the holiday family traditions that will be no longer. Beware of stepping into this pothole by actively creating new holiday traditions. Google “what to do over the holidays in … [Read more...] about The Collaborative Attorney’s Client Guide to Surviving the Holidays
The Gift of Collaboration
Whether a couple is in the throes of divorce proceedings or contemplating marriage dissolution, holiday months arrive as a potent reminder. Holidays can become occasion for some to look closer: at what they have, what they do not have, and what they stand to lose. If divorce is complicated—and that is usually an understatement—divorce that involves kids can be overwrought with emotional landmines. … [Read more...] about The Gift of Collaboration